A revised and updated edition of Emily Nagoski's game-changing New York Times bestseller Come As You Are, featuring new information and research on mindfulness, desire, and pleasure that will radically transform your sex life. For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women's sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently--and far less seriously--than its male counterpart. That is, until Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they're organized but how you feel about them. In the years since the book's initial publication, countless women have learned through Nagoski's accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman's sexual wellbeing; they are central to it--and that even if you don't always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself. This revised and updated edition continues that mission with new information and advanced research, demystifying and decoding the science of sex so that everyone can create a better sex life and discover more pleasure than you ever thought possible.
Let's be honest. It takes work to keep it hot. With the distractions of outside life, mixing it up in the bedroom can be low on the priority list. Attempts to improve intimacy can easily be taken as complaints or criticism and lead to further disconnect.
Not anymore.
Keeping it Hot: The Workbook is your guidebook to understanding, mutual satisfaction, and equitable partnership.
It includes:
Because getting the spark back should be fun, not a fight.
INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER "This book feels so hopeful because it's direct, it's really honest, and it's so actionable." --Brene Brown From New York Times-bestselling authors Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, a simple yet powerful plan to transform your relationship in seven days What makes love last? Why does one couple stay together forever, while another falls apart? And most importantly, is there a scientific formula for love? Drs. John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman are the world's leading relationship scientists. For the past forty years, they have been studying love. They've gathered data on over three thousand couples, looking at everything from their body language to the way they converse to their stress hormone levels. Their goal: to identify the building blocks of love. The Love Prescription distills their life's work into a bite-size, seven-day action plan with easy, immediately actionable steps. There will be no grand gestures and no big, hard conversations. There's nothing to buy or do to prepare. Anyone can do this, from any starting point. The seven-day prescription will lead you through these exercises: Day 1: Make Contact
Day 2: Ask a Big Question
Day 3: Say Thank You
Day 4: Give a Real Compliment
Day 5: Ask for What You Need
Day 6: Reach Out and Touch
Day 7: Declare a Date Night There is a formula for a good relationship, and this book will show you how a few small changes can fundamentally transform your relationship for the better.
Day 2: Ask a Big Question
Day 3: Say Thank You
Day 4: Give a Real Compliment
Day 5: Ask for What You Need
Day 6: Reach Out and Touch
Day 7: Declare a Date Night There is a formula for a good relationship, and this book will show you how a few small changes can fundamentally transform your relationship for the better.
The definitive guide to creating the sex life of your wildest dreams--just by talking about it!--from sexpert couple Vanessa and Xander Marin. There are plenty of books about sex. But this is one of the only books that shows you how to actually talk about it. Because how are you supposed to have an extraordinary sex life if you can't even discuss it openly with your partner? Sex Talks is here to change that. Together, sex therapist Vanessa Marin and her husband, Xander, show you that the best thing you can do for your sex life doesn't even involve taking off your clothes. Sex Talks covers the five essential conversations every couple needs to have:
1. Acknowledgement: a.k.a. "Sex is a thing, and we have it."
2. Connection: a.k.a. "What do we need to feel connected to each other?"
3. Desire: a.k.a. "What do we each need to get turned on?"
4. Pleasure: a.k.a. "What do we each need to feel good?"
5. Exploration: a.k.a. "What should we try next?" With gripping storytelling and an intimate peek at what really goes on behind other couples' closed bedroom doors, Vanessa and Xander share their successful advice that has already helped hundreds of thousands. Sex Talks provides you with the sex education you wish you'd had, plus the tried-and-tested tools you need to create the sex life of your wildest dreams.
1. Acknowledgement: a.k.a. "Sex is a thing, and we have it."
2. Connection: a.k.a. "What do we need to feel connected to each other?"
3. Desire: a.k.a. "What do we each need to get turned on?"
4. Pleasure: a.k.a. "What do we each need to feel good?"
5. Exploration: a.k.a. "What should we try next?" With gripping storytelling and an intimate peek at what really goes on behind other couples' closed bedroom doors, Vanessa and Xander share their successful advice that has already helped hundreds of thousands. Sex Talks provides you with the sex education you wish you'd had, plus the tried-and-tested tools you need to create the sex life of your wildest dreams.